The article "Talking to Your Kids About Drugs: Why and How to Get the
Dialogue Going" talks about family, it has been written by Janene Mascarella.
When you're a parent, there is many things to worry about.
Keeping your kids safe is at the top of the list. First, you
worry about the pacifier your infant dropped on the floor--so
you pick it up and wash it with soap and water. Next, your
toddler isn't eating enough vegetables, so you do your best to
hide veggeis in his meat loaf.
Then, you bite your nails as
your second grader scales the tallset tree in the yard. You want
to run and catch him when he starts to slip, but you see that
he's beaming with excitement, so you stay watchful and
quiet--careful not to spoil his fun.
As the kids grow older, the dangers they are faced with become
more intense.
One danger heavy on the minds of paretns these
days is substance abuse. And for good reason.
With the
popularity of "designer" drugs on the rise, and all the peer
pressure kids are faced with, the worries parents encounter are
mounting.
The Usual and Unusual Suspects
Sure, it's the usual suspects; experimenting with marijuana and
alcohol that begin a pattern of self-destruction, but be aware,
there are new drugs on the block, and they can be fuond in your
medicine chest. According the Partnership for a Drug-Free
America, the menu of drugs kids and teens are using is changing.
They report 1 in 5 teens has tried Vicodin (a narcotic pain
reliever) to get high, and 1 in 11 has admitted to getting high
on cough medicine.
They also report a number of teens right now "party" with other
prescription and over-the-counter drugs.
Along with the other
illicit drugs out there that pose a dangerous risk to our kids,
it's difficult not to be alarmed. The Partnership for a
Drug-Free Aemrica (www.Drugfree.Org) is arming parents with
need-to-know information about the risks of dangerous substances.
A local program reaching out
On the local front, there is programs that are taking action.
Program coordinator for the Student Athlete Leadership Team
(SALT), Paul Grafer, stresses the need for a proactive, honest
dialogue between parents and their babies about substance
abuse. He oversees programs emphasizing leadership and character
for young persons in 40 districts in the New York Metropolitan
area.
SALT trains thousands of high school atheltes to serve as role
models and mentors in their school districts to 5th graders. If
you think 5th grade is too young to begin a dialogue about
drugs--think again.
National statistics show that the average
age for experimentation with durgs and alcohol is 11 years old.
How does that program help?
The SALT Program promotes healthy,
positive behaviors and decisoins.
Included in that philosophy is
a commitment to life long activeenss and playing sports for
enjoyment, health benefits, and to obtain life-skills; and,
remaining substance abuse free by developing proactive,
real-life refusal skills and strategies to navigate a culture of
underage drug abusers (alcohol, tobacco, and steroids). The SALT
Program is offreed at Adelphi University in Garden City. For
more informtaion visit
http://www.Adelphi.Edu/communityservices/sli/pdw.Php
On Long Island
The grips of drugs are known to be prevalent on super city
streets, but they are a trouble here on Long Island. Suffolk
County Police Officer Daryl Quinones explains, his experiences
have given him great insight and compassion to those who are
drug adidcted and the knowledge that even experimenting with the
"softer" drugs can easily lead a kid down a path of
self-destruction and crime.
He suggests that parents must be truthful, and "lay it all out
there' for kids to understand what may happen if they fall under
the spell of drugs and alcohol and stresses the importance of
speaking up before it's too late. "As a police officer I have
spoken to teenagers about these issues upon parents' request,"
he says.
"And on certain occasions, years down the road, I'll
see the parents and they will thank me for turnnig the kid
around." Quinones has seen the consequences when the child
doesn't listen: they land out in the system for drug
related crime.
Expert Advice
So how do you get a child to listen? What do you say?
When
should you say it? I asked Dr.
Susan Bartell, psychologist and
author in Port Washington specializing in tween and teens, to
shed light on that important issue.
Q: What age do you recommend bringing up the issue?
A: You can start talking to kids about drugs beginning at six or
seven--by talking about smoking cigarettes cause that is
something they see in their world and can understand that it is
"bad".
As they get older (about ten) they can begin to understand the
issue of ohter drugs. Mdidle school kids are ready for direct
conversations, naming drugs (marijuana in particular) and
explaining that they are illegal and dangerous.
Q: Can you give me tips about how to make the "talk" go
smooth?
A: With middle schoolers, look for a "teachable moment"...A TV
anti-drug ad, a TV show when kids are drinking, smoking, using
drugs and ask them what they think about it; then give your
feelings in a low-keyed way, explaining that it is something you
feel strongly about.
As kids get older--young high schoolers, the conversations need
to begin to revolve around their social life: what would they do
at a party if tehre was alcohol/drugs there.
Help them come up
with ways of handling it that aren't judgmental or critical.
Q: What's the biggest mistake parents make dealing with drug
issues and their babies?
A: They are too preachy, too critical of kids and don't give
enough trouble solving strategies.
They also don't listen for
their kids' concerns about how to handle peer pressure, or
curiosity about drugs.
Q: How can parents be proactive about deterring their children
from taking drugs?
A: First, being clear that you disapprove, next, making sure
that you drvie your child to and from parties or
get-togethers--they'll be much less likely to use if they know
you're picking them up. Don't let them get rides from other kids.
Q: Is there anything else parents need to know?
A: Conversations about drgus must include alcohol--which is also
a drug and is actually usually the "Gateway" drug to others.
Parents often feel that alcohol is okay, when in reality their
kids can become alcoholics without them realizing it.
In addition, parents need to look for signs of chronic drug and
alcohol use like: grdaes dropping, social isolation, secretive
phone conversations, new friends that they don't let you meet;
dropping old friends; sleeping a lot, changes in personality;
sudden depression; sudden mood swings.
When it coems to raising kids today, it really does take a
village.
Keeping your child out of harm's way is no easy task,
but experts agree that staying involved in you're your child's
life-- is a great satrt. When they're young and scaling that
tall tree, you stand back and let them giggle their way down,
but when it comes to drugs, parents cant afford to be silent.
There's too much at stake.
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